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I still remember the day my daughter came to my house and said, 'Boys have a penis, and girls have a vagina.' And so it was so wide, and then I thought… she already knows her body and knows how it is that of others, or at least that there is another sex other than her. This happened with two and a half years. And it is from this age that children begin to see these differences and also the first step to start claiming some privacy, or they begin to be ashamed in certain situations.
Between the ages of two and four, boys and girls begin to wish for some privacy in actions like going to the bathroom, changing clothes, or even bathing. Thus modesty appears.
Here at this stage, modesty comes to be a mix between the desire to be autonomous and wanting to do it all alone, and also a bit of shame, showing modesty when it comes to teaching their most intimate parts. At this age, sexuality is not very well defined, that is, they do not know very well what it is. Let's see how sexuality develops:
- With 2 years: Children recognize each other sexually, that is, they know if they are a boy or a girl, and it is even a stage in which they can wonder where children come from. At this stage there is great curiosity and they will touch and look at each other but without sexual connotations.
- With 3 to 4 years: They already identify with their father or mother and wonder about the differences between boys and girls.
- From 4 to 6 years old: The first notes begin to appear that there is modesty, especially when there are people who are not from their environment.
Already with 6-7 years: He prefers to bathe alone, without the presence of his parents.
Feel shame it's normal and it's not bad, parents must respect the wishes of children trying to defend their privacy and without this implying something strange.
If a child already knows how to clean himself when he goes to the bathroom, we are going to let him go alone, yes, without closing latches or locks on the bathrooms.
For the bathroom, depending on how old he is, we can let him soap himself and we supervise, or just check that there is no soap and thus gradually promote his autonomy.
Normally in the presence of parents, especially the same sex, they do not usually show modesty or shame, but when there are people who are not usual in their environment, you have to be careful, because if they can show some shame. In these cases you have to respect them more, and not do things you don't want to, such as undressing him in front of these people. And of course do not scold him if he does not want to do something or say things like 'look how embarrassing, but if we have the same thing as you', because it will increase his shame.
The most important is respect and simplicity in the face of these issues, and that what they see at home is the most natural model to imitate.
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